The single most vital key to a better life and a better world is relating.
In essence: Our whole experience of life is a relationship. Every single moment is centred in the way we relate to what is happening.
To understand this more deeply it helps us to recognise core issues that manifest due to the misperception of separation. Our perceived disconnection from spirit/source is at the root of all our conflicts.
Disconnection underlies every issue we experience
This sense of disconnection underlies EVERY issue we endure as individuals and as a human race. As a result we feel dislocated in ourselves and in life. We have a distorted perception of everything we encounter – which in turn influences our whole experience. Because, simply put – all that we experience is filtered through our perceptions.
These perceptions then lead us to experience what we think. As we experience what we think we make it our belief system. From our belief system, we continue to think and act in ways that shape our entire experience of life.
Belief of separation is the first symptom of disconnection
The first symptom to come out of our (perceived) disconnection with spirit is the belief of separation. This manifests in our ideas and mental constructs of ‘other’. We develop an experience of something ‘other’ than source, soul, eternal life. AND other than everything else we see.
This sense of separation extends beyond a split from source and one’s own self, into a sense of separation from every other part of creation. Every person we meet (who really is a part of our infinite Self), is encountered as other. Not only is there a sense of ‘other’, there is also a sense of ‘opposite’. Our experience is one of duality; me and you, this and that, right and wrong.
This sense of separation is the source of all fears.
Whatever is seen as outside or ‘other’ than our self is seen either as a threat or as desirable. We seek to either reject in order to protect ourselves or to possess in order to feel more complete. Our experience becomes one of dualistic relating… which ultimately results in a never-ending struggle.
The first ground of this immanent struggle manifests itself in relationships. What we most commonly call ‘relationship’ is the game of the dualistic mind. From this position there can never be a sense of true unity, harmony, peace or fulfillment. For as long as the person is seen or felt as solely ‘other’ there will always be a polarity of feelings to protect… and an imaginary goal to achieve.
Nearly all of humanity has a perception of relationships based on fairy tales
The first feature of the universal myth is that we are all separate, one from another, the second is that there is “a one and only” – (Mr. or Mrs. Right), and the third is that union with that one right person will lead to a life of happily ever after.
When we bring ourselves back to Truth, to our true nature, we discover that there truly is no other… there is only Self reflected in and through all things. All of our human manifestations are ALL Mr. and Mrs. Right. Each encounter we have with any individual character is simply an experience with another aspect of our Self. We are the same being, expressing as Mr and Mrs different.
No single one will ever ‘perfectly’ match our self because every single part of our self IS different… although a manifestation of ONE being. And all of this is an eternal dance of ever changing moments of RELATING. In other words… there is no everlasting love at the level of form… only in the level of spirit.
This does not mean it is impossible to have what most people seek: fulfilling and harmonious relationships. It does mean however that we must give up the illusion (the fairy tale) of relationships and embrace the journey of RELATING.
And where does that begin? Our SELF.
All relating begins in our Self.
As long as our basis of ‘self’ is one that is dislocated, every moment of relating with other – whether it be a partner or it be work or nature – will be based on an experience of separation. It will be an illusion and sooner or later will lead to frustration and disillusionment. Because human nature seeks the experience of love. When we feel dislocated we do not feel our true nature which IS love which is ONENESS.
When we return to our innermost Self we are capable of rediscovering our true essence… the Self as Oneness. It is in our inner Self that we also re-encounter our Self as boundless, as energy, as spatial being. Through this we can truly experience Oneness… and LOVE. We can feel all things within our Self and our Self within all things.
When we see our Self in ‘other’ it is no longer possible to form a relationship based in fear. It is no longer an encounter of competition, protection or an effort to possess. It is a deeply encountered state of relating… centered in love. It is seen as an expression that is alive and centered only and forever in the now. It is seen as an opportunity to express our authentic Self and to feel and witness our Self as Love through the reflection of what appears as other. This appearance is seen as a gift; a multi-dimensional mirror, to know our infinite Self in and through endless forms.
You truly experience life when you are relating to your Self
In essence: the more connected you are in your Self, the more connected your experience will be with life.
In our return to oneness we are able to find true healing, loving relating and a world of greater peace.
A simple ‘relating’ exercise to develop a deeper state of oneness
Try this simple exercise as a way to develop a deeper state of oneness.
- First take 15 minutes to centre yourself.
- Begin by breathing slowly… in a deep steady rhythm.
- Connect with the energy with your breath and flow inwardly. Attune to the flow of inner energy and spaciousness.
- When you feel a deep sense of spaciousness and expansion slowly half open your eyes.
- As your eyes open let your gaze be soft.
- Maintaining this soft gaze, take in the aspect of space that is in the whole field before you. Let your focus of experience rest on the sense of space… seeing how all things are sitting inside of spaciousness.
- Now shift your sense of awareness to the flow of energy that is this space. Feel and see how all things are connected as this energy. All things are one field of energy.
- Maintain your state of awareness in this way for half an hour.
- When you are ready to get up, take a deep breath into your inner core. Feel your innermost being connected with all things.
At first this practice may seem very subtle. Over time you will begin to notice a deeper sense of wholeness and oneness. As you rest into this more readily your whole field of perception and relating will be transformed.
May you live in the Blessing Field of Oneness.